From Survivor to Regenerator – new language for new outcomes
Krisztina • June 8, 2024
I’d like to evolve the language of sexual trauma from Survivor to Regenerator.
For many types of injuries and accidents there is a medical system in place that resets bones, grafts skin, helps the body to repair muscles and tendons. The legacy of deep emotional or sexual wounds cannot be mended in the same way. The injuries are largely energetic, and though the physical body does not show signs of injury, the energetic body holds these memories and imbalances. Supportive conversations with wise caring people, or therapy will help knit these parts together, but what about the memories held in the body? The holding patterns that prevent true relaxation and authentic expression?
The term Survivor leaves a person at a point. But then what?
To truly heal, a person needs a safe place to rest, renew and relax. Also needed is a supportive social network. Without these, the stresses of life will continue to be a distraction. The external life must be stabilized with respect to housing, income and connections.
To heal the feeling of brokenness and disconnection that is held in the body requires work on the energy body.
Imagine stepping into a sacred space where great care has been taken to create a tranquil setting just for your healing.
You smell copal, faintly in the air. A sacred resin that was burned before your arrival to purify the room.
You lay down on a table covered with an embroidered cloth, each stitch painstakingly sewn into a handmade piece of art.
The view from the window is a serene and expansive lake, surrounded by Mayan communities and foreigners who have settled here.
The sound in the room immediately brings forth a sense of relaxation. It’s as if you’re being transported to a place of healing, in a higher dimension, a gentle harmonic wave encouraging full relaxation.
A wise, caring healer awaits you. She is trained in a form of energy medicine that is thousands of years old, practiced to this day in China, Japan, Korea, Tibet and now many places distant from its origin.
After a conversation about how you currently feel and how you wish to feel, you recline on the table. A soft pillow props your knees and a roll of fabric supports your neck.
She skillfully places the thin needles along acupuncture points to activate rivers of energy within your body. Rivers that have always been there, known as acupuncture meridians. The activation of the points, allows the rivers to flow and wash away energetic debris.
Everything has been put in place to allow for deep relaxation. Each detail has been attended to.
After the needles have been placed, she advises you to go into a place of meditation and stillness, then she asks if you are comfortable. She steps out of the room. Now, it’s you on the table, the needles activating energy flow that has perhaps not flown properly in a while.
The music helps transport you to a place of deep relaxation. You are safe. The more you relax, the easier the rivers of energy can flow; connecting, weaving and washing away what no longer serves. In this state of deep relaxation, you experience a connection to yourself that you haven’t felt in a while. You lay there for nearly an hour, breathing deeply with the music.
The healer comes back, removes the needles, and gently checks in to see how you feel.
Your eyes are brighter, your emotions more balanced, you leave feeling more whole and hopeful.
This is what I wish to share with you.
Krisztina Samu, Acupuncturist
Image by Marta I. Seco from Pixabay
Over the past year I’ve had the good fortune of working as an acupuncturist at Villa Sumaya , a beautiful wellness retreat at magical Lake Atitlan, Guatemala. Many retreats come and go there, spending a week or more doing yoga, meditation and other types of wellness practices. More often, the retreats are attended by women. Occasionally there are a few men who participate, but I have to ask myself, is this type of retreat more of a woman’s process. Perhaps it is. I contrast this to my time on the Big Island of Hawaii where I lived for 14 years. The Big Island is known as the healing island. The volcanic activity on the island, which is a constant feature introduces a strong fire element to the environment, pushing people’s “stuff’ to the surface to be addressed and / or healed. The Big Island has an abundance of alternative practitioners, from massage to acupuncture, to lomi lomi massage, as well as an abundance of yoga and other fitness classes. Yet here too, many more women participate. I ask myself why. What do men do for healing? Is their process different? I lived on the northernmost peninsula of the Big Island. It was quite remote and beautiful. It was a quiet and very beautiful part of the island with many families who were lucky enough to live there. There were a few restaurants and gift shops, churches and a library, a couple of gas stations, several farms and a few remote retreat centers. Interestingly there was a business that had their headquarters there called “Cherry Poppers”. (I’ve changed the name slightly to protect the identity of the business). Cherry Poppers was an international dating site that matched older Western men from the first world with young, attractive girls from China, Southeast Asia. Their homepage featured a delicate Asian girl who had barely just blossomed into sexual maturity. Young, coy, delicate and innocent, she was the face of international dating. There was no shortage of older men in my community who would travel on “wellness retreats” which involved getting affordable medical care or dental work overseas and staying a month to enjoy the prostitutes of the same country. I realized then that wellness for many men is different from wellness for women. I really believe that many men feel healed when they have sex with young girls and they feel most satisfied when they can have sex with many different ones. Many places in Southeast Asia provide this type of healing retreat for them, and a reasonable cost. We’re talking the shadow masculine here. When I was younger, I saw my parents’ solid marriage as the norm. Growing old together was what I though most people desired. However, living in Hawaii, near the Cherry Poppers headquarters changed that notion for me. I learned that because this option is available to them, many feel a sense of indignity if they end up with someone who ages along with them. Girls are prettier in their early 20s and they have more essence to consume. Even my neighbor, a pedophile who was on the registered sex offenders list, but who had done his time in prison, but really didn’t change or see the error of his ways, enjoyed this lifestyle. The poverty in the Philippines let him travel to a place where he could enjoy that which he most desired with impunity. And what of the women? By our mid 30s we were done in the eyes of many such men. Of course, we had our choice of the men who didn’t travel overseas for sex. Mostly the ones with no money to do so, or felonies that prevented them from getting a passport. But of the men who had money, they loved their overseas trips. Sometimes when they didn’t want to fight the crowds, they’d bring the girls to the USA for a yearlong test run that “might lead to marriage” but often did not. Surprise, after a year of intimacy it was often discovered that they had little in common. They’d load the girl up with some jewelry and send her back, giving a new one a try. Human trafficking? Not exactly. It was on the cusp of it so as not to be too obvious. Years later, they dropped the word “Cherry” from the business name. It made the truth too obvious. Namely that the most enjoyable part of the feminine life cycle is the year or two that the girl loses her sexual innocence. That’s the most delectable and delicious stage it seems. Is this shameful or is it just reality and market forces at play? I shared this article before posting it, with a few men, who didn’t like “men” painted in this light. Some said that healing for men has to do more with overcoming challenges or spending time in the wilderness. True, in this article I talk primarily of the shadow masculine, and these days many are indeed in their shadow, having cast aside the light of Christ and the river of renewal that following Christ offers. The siphoning of youthful life force by older sexual partners, even in a commercial transaction, does rejuvenate the older person, but it is a form of rapid depletion for the younger person. Energetically speaking, is it fair and right for a young person to be “under siege” by older people strictly for the consumption of their sexual essence? That is how I sometimes felt in my youth. On a few cases in childhood, a few men tried to corner me for just this, one called me their girlfriend (I was five… my God). I laugh at human folly as there is a natural order to things, and mutual exploitation, a loveless transaction of money for essence, no matter how it is packaged, often does not lead to wholeness and happiness in the end. God intends us to be in partnerships where we are equally yoked. Him rich old, her poor, young and desperate does not qualify as equally yoked. I applaud men who take the high road, who purify themselves through fasting and correct diet and generate vitality through ethical means of exercise, and who follow God. This is a sharp contrast to those who sully their bodies with drugs and alcohol, then purchase sexual services with someone who is younger, and has more vitality, then dump their energetic garbage into that person’s body. May we all seek the high road in what we do. In the end, that’s what gives the true reward. Image by vined mind from Pixabay Image by Erik Tanghe from Pixabay
Frequency medicine involves putting on a good pair of earphones and getting really relaxed in your space to absorb the healing frequencies. The more you relax, the better the frequencies can vibrate health and harmony into your body. Can frequency medicine be combined with other energy medicine such as reiki or acupuncture? Of course! Healing is a process. Every little bit helps. Every choice in a positive direction counts. These all add up. From creating a clean, serene environment in your home, to improving your diet, to starting the day with a frequency medicine track. Many small steps in a healing direction contribute to wellness. Several tracks below reference demons. In this context, demon can be understood as bad, toxic or harmful spiritual energy. Here is a list of frequency medicine from YouTube, that is potentially helpful. Banish Sexual Demons | Banishing Frequency Against Sexual Demons Such As Succubus And Incubus Banish Sexual Demons & Ignite Tantric Connection | Banishing/Shielding Frequency Demon Removal ^ Enter The Purification Pool Powerful Light Language: Remove Succubus/Incubus Entities/Energies Banish Sexual Exchange | Eliminate Energy From Past Sexual Partners Healing Tantric Bells - Purify The Sexual Energy, Cleanse Aura from Past Partners, Let Go of Trauma Sexual Energy Clearing and Cutting Cords / Energetically Programmed Audio / Maitreya Reiki™ Soul Purifying And Cleaning Frequency | Purify Your Soul From Energies That Don't Belong to You 288Hz 》SACRAL CHAKRA CLEANSING SOUNDBATH 》Let Go of Draining Negative Emotions 》Chakra Healing Music Clearing your energy of past sexual partners Silent Healing frequency 221.23 Hz | Heal The Feminine Energy While You Sleep - Venus Frequency for Female Sexuality Healing Healing and clearing of sexual trauma and abuse Silent Frequency Demolish Sexual Predators | Cancel all Incubus, Traffickers, Spiritual Sexual Violence Subliminal Image by HANSUAN FABREGAS from Pixabay Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay
Subtle energies teach us many things. Paying attention to them is so important. When we do, it’s called mindfulness. Whether we are talking about the way the human heart opens or observing the nuance of emotions, subtle energies teach us in incredible ways. In the best case scenario, sexual energy unfolds in a subtle way under healthy circumstances, when the right conditions are met. Those conditions ideally are trust, love and care. One myth that needs to be dispelled, is idea of the cherry when discussing female sexual function. The archaic ideas of “popping a cherry”, suggests that a virgin girl is penetrated, breaking the hymen in order to release her essence. True female sexuality is not at all like a cherry, it is more like a flower. It is a flower that can open and blossom many times, over many cycles, producing essence as long as it’s given the right care. Moreover, the notion of “popping” suggests puncturing or breaking a boundary to release the contents of whatever is being popped. Again, this is so wrong. It might be just this shift in understanding female sexuality which will help alleviate many experiences of trauma. The feminine needs to be touched in the resonance of love; love being the highest vibration. In a healthy female, she holds back until this condition is met. When she is intimately touched in a lower resonance, it dims her light and in effect is an act of consumption of her essence. This leaves a legacy of bad energy that needs to be transformed and transmuted and requires time for her to regenerate her essence. A flower must never be prematurely forced to open. Nature has its own rhythm. The flower must simply be given adequate soil and water, and the weeds must be kept away for it to bloom to its maximum potential. The feminine is much like this. In Tarot, as an example, soil is represented by the pentacles which represents material support. Water is emotion or love. When accessing feminine sexual energy, it is not like spearing a fish or some other sudden, predatory, puncturing motion. It is creating an environment of safety and care. Otherwise, you destroy that flower’s potential. Romance is the old fashioned, and effective way to gain trust and inspire closeness. Creating an environment where the flower can bloom is the next step. Traditionally, this is associated with the masculine protecting and providing. To ethically gain access to the most intimate part of another person is a process that must not be rushed. It requires correct action, effort, patience and sincerity. Image by Wolfgang Eckert from Pixabay
I had the good fortune of attending a womb healing ceremony led by Pam Ng in San Marcos La Laguna. Throughout the ceremony where we shared affirmations to heal out wombs, and she said something that stayed with me. That we are leaving an extractive patriarchal system and moving into a regenerative feminine system. How could we not. Without it, we die. Nature simply cannot be extracted to the point of exhaustion without consequences. All over the world, big, crowded cities, covered in asphalt, are simply dying. In those areas, nature was sacrificed for commerce. Today, homeless encampments crowd many areas of these cities. The encampments are growing in size and numbers; the human misery increasing. By contrast, I’ve lived in places where nature is still dominant. For fourteen years I lived in Hawaii, where the abundant plant life breathes vitality into its inhabitants. Now, I’m in San Marcos Pasajcap, also surrounded by nature; where birds, bugs and critters all share a space that I call my home. Here I rise with the sun and go to bed when it sets. Here I take things more slowly and move with more mindfulness. Living out of synch with nature’s rhythm takes a toll on everyone. In modern life we can stay up and work or play as late as we want, we can be warm in cold places and cold in warm places. We can eat strawberries in December due to artificially controlled environments. We can use chemicals to make ourselves happy because the pace and rhythm of life does not allow us to forge supportive relationships. In modern life we can purchase those parts of someone else’s time/expertise that we need, down to the most intimate and private exchanges which are all for sale. In modern life, holistic family or group relationships are no longer needed, they’ve been dissected into their most useful parts, and commercialized. Of course, this leads to addictions and maladaptive coping patterns with more and more need for mental health services. Just look around. This system is crumbling. How do we heal from this? We find or create a little habitat that supports human life. We help nature, not just take from her. We help make her whole. From planting a tree or a small house garden, getting our hands in the earth gets us back to the basics. We take the time to rest because we’ve come to the realization that by pushing ourselves past our limits in this fiercely competitive society will only leave us with a big bill we have to pay later. The bill can be a spiritual debt, or a cost for the harm to our physical health. I lived in suburban New Jersey for many years. There, housing developments were called bedroom communities. It was expected that the residents would simply sleep there, spending their days at their nearby corporate jobs. Many such towns had no sidewalks at all and were named by the animal habitat that was destroyed to build the housing. Fox Run had no foxes. Deer Pass had no deer. Rabbit Hollow, of course, was absent of rabbits. Getting back to the rhythms of nature gets us back to health. Appreciating the life-giving sun, working with life giving earth, using water the way it was intended, helps us all harmonize. Women especially often have the responsibilities of work, home and children to juggle, with inadequate support, leaving many of them in a state of exhaustion. To regenerate and renew takes rest and healing. Quiet contemplation that cannot be rushed. When was the last time you took time evaluate your life. Is the pace of it working for you? Have the demands of life been so prioritized that the promptings of your body have been suppressed? This always has consequences. I learned through my life, that so often, we push now and pay later. If you are sensing that a debt to your own wellbeing has accrued, it is time to pay this by focusing on what has been neglected. As an acupuncturist who has served many groups on retreat, I can tell you that retreats are life changing. Today, I feel that taking time for a yearly retreat would create happier, more focused and balanced humans worldwide. We’d like to invite you to take this precious time for yourself at our upcoming Women’s Deep Healing a retreat at magical Lake Atitlan, in Guatemala from August 17 to 24th. Strip mine Image by Martina Janochová from Pixabay Plant Image by Thọ Vương Hồng from Pixabay
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